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weekend open thread – April 26-27, 2025
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.
This comment section is open for any non-work-related discussion you’d like to have with other readers, by popular demand. Here are the rules for the weekend posts. Book recommendation of the week: I See You’ve Called In Dead, by John Kenney. An obituary writer publishes his own obituary after drinking too much one night, then he […]
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Checkout newsopen thread – April 25, 2025
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.
It’s the Friday open thread! The comment section on this post is open for discussion with other readers on any work-related questions that you want to talk about (that includes school). If you want an answer from me, emailing me is still your best bet*, but this is a chance to take your questions to […]
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Checkout newssupervisor is flirting with my wife, how to tell clients I’m closing my business, and more
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.
First, a housekeeping note: Comments will be turned off for a while on Friday while the site moves to a new server. They’ll be turned back on once it’s complete. It’s four answers to four questions. Here we go… 1. Supervisor is flirting with my wife I am a woman, 41 years old, who has […]
1 day 17 hours ago
Checkout newscan I ask interviewers whether they use employee surveillance tech?
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.
A reader writes: The last time I was searching for jobs was pre-Covid, and while the job market and world have changed in many ways, one of the ways I’m most concerned about in my current search is the rise of employee monitoring technologies. I work in a field that has been primarily remote since […]
2 days 4 hours ago
Checkout newswe have a new “sagas” tag for letters with multiple updates
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A reader writes: I read Ask a Manager every day and have a suggestion for the site. I’m always delighted when I click on a post and it turns out to have a bunch of updates — those are the most fun to read! I think readers would enjoy a category on the Topics page […]
2 days 5 hours ago
Checkout newswhat’s the strangest first impression you’ve seen a new hire make?
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.
Most people try to make a good impression when they start a new job. Others … do not or, perhaps, cannot. Think, for example, of the new hire who was already badmouthing the business on Twitter, the employee plotting a coup on her second day, and the new hire who brought their mom to orientation. And […]
2 days 7 hours ago
Checkout newsshould I quit my job and open a bookstore, coworker was disciplined for sharing info everyone already knew, and more
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.
It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. I want to quit my job and open a bookstore I work in tax accounting. Tax season just ended and the overtime nearly killed me. I love my job but I’m tired of it. I’m also in my mid twenties and more or less feel […]
2 days 17 hours ago
Checkout newsmy new manager is upset I didn’t tell her I was pregnant when I interviewed
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.
A reader writes: I recently interviewed for and accepted a job as a nurse at the very small hospital in my very small midwestern town. My lovely manager was very transparent about how they are big supporters of work-life balance, and gave tangible examples of how they support families, because they have “small town values.” […]
3 days 4 hours ago
Checkout newsI received a job offer — and it was a scam
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.
A reader shares this story: I recently received what I believe to be a scam job offer. It seemed too good to be true, and I should have realized it was a scam, especially since I don’t remember applying for the position at the company that supposedly offered it to me. The most obvious red […]
3 days 5 hours ago
Checkout newsshould I report an old mentor who was inappropriate with me?
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.
A reader writes: The letter you posted from the volunteer who didn’t disclose something to a student’s teacher and parents reminded me about something that happened to me a while ago with an outside mentor for an after-school program, especially since I was a lot like Marvin in that letter (without the expensive romantic overtures). […]
3 days 7 hours ago
Checkout newsmy boss says my salary research is wrong because our benefits are so great, calling out sick for flight anxiety, and more
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It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. My boss says my salary research is wrong because our benefits are so great I recently received a promotion with a significant increase in job responsibilities and found myself negotiating salary for the first time in my career. My state requires salary ranges to be […]
3 days 17 hours ago
Checkout newsI’m working for my parents’ company — and my colleagues are being jerks
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.
A reader writes: Through a bit of misfortune, I had to fall back on working at the company my parents own, in order to pay my bills. It is a challenging job market, to say the least, so I am grateful that I have this safety net I can fall back on. However, it isn’t […]
4 days 4 hours ago
Checkout newsshould I interview candidates who show up without an appointment?
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.
A reader asks: My small business has had a recurring discussion regarding taking meetings with job seekers when we don’t have an open position. Someone will reach out, either by stopping by our office without an appointment or just sending an inquiry by email, and ask if they can meet with someone. In the past, […]
4 days 5 hours ago
Checkout newsI manage two employees who don’t get along and it’s getting out of control
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A reader writes: I took over as the director of my former team about a year ago. I inherited an ongoing HR issue between one of my direct reports (Tammy) and her direct report (Beth). Beth hates Tammy. Beth had applied for the promotion to Tammy’s position when it was last open but my predecessor […]
4 days 7 hours ago
Checkout newsboss leads terrible meetings, old manager is undermining our new manager, and more
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.
It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. My boss leads the worst staff meetings ever Every month my boss leads an all-staff meeting, and it is awful. Normally he is a pretty good boss, and I enjoy working with him. But this meeting is regularly 1.5-2 hours long and largely irrelevant to […]
4 days 17 hours ago
Checkout newsmy coworker’s constant babbling is drowning me in info, and my boss won’t help
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.
A reader writes: I’m an admin in a small office, with a centrally located desk. One of my coworkers, Miranda, literally never stops talking. I counted for a while and she averages two major interruptions per hour, mostly extended monologues about personal minutiae, intimate relationship problems, or absolute and total nonsense. Basically, her entire internal […]
5 days 4 hours ago
Checkout newshow to say “that’s not OK” at work
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.
A reader writes: Is there a professionally acceptable way to push back when someone apologizes for causing problems at work? For example, this morning, my colleague slept through a meeting we had scheduled. Since I’m on the west coast (we’re a remote team), this meeting required me to wake up at 5 am. She messaged […]
5 days 5 hours ago
Checkout newsmy incompetent boss can’t handle that I won’t be his friend
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.
A reader writes: I have a manager who you would deem unfixable, and I’m currently job hunting so I can put him behind me. In the meantime, I’d love your advice on how to handle this very emotionally draining situation. It has been two years of trying to fix him and I’ve exhausted every avenue, […]
5 days 7 hours ago
Checkout newsmy promotion was canceled because of budget, a problematic coworker wants to join an allies group, and more
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.
It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. My promotion was canceled because of budget … but I’m still doing the work I’m an employee at a university paid through federal funding. Last month, my manager submitted a promotion for me. After some back and forth, it was approved all the way up […]
5 days 17 hours ago
Checkout newsweekend open thread – April 19-20, 2025
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.
This comment section is open for any non-work-related discussion you’d like to have with other readers, by popular demand. Here are the rules for the weekend posts. Book recommendation of the week: Greta & Valdin, by Rebecca K. Reilly. Greta and Valdin are siblings and roommates, one dealing with his break-up with a much older […]
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